Welcome, ladies, gents and others, to the latest installment of TRANS THREAD.
So, this is my first thread starty thing on Penny Arcade...test me out, whacha got?
What is a trans?
Oh. Oh...cool. Umm....maybe start here? - http://transwhat.org/confused/
The intended theme of this thread is pretty much anything to do with gender identity and how people deal with it.
Who is this thread for?
Well, its in the Singularity Engine, so anyone really BUT:
- The people this thread is intended for is anyone who has a gender or does not!
- But also this thread is hopefully a safe space for people dealing with gender identity issues slightly more than those who are cis binary and not questioning.
So yeah, anybody, but DBAD. We just call it Trans thread because its quick shorthand.
I'm seeing a lot of terms that I have no idea what they are. Help!
- Agender: People who have little or no gender identity; not identifying as male or female to any significant extent.
- AFAB & AMAB: Means `Assigned Female At Birth' and `Assigned Male At Birth'.
- Cat lumps: boobs.
- Deadname: Referring to a person who is going through, or has completed gender transition by the name associated with a false gender. Sort of extends to using the wrong pronouns.
- FTM & MTF: stands for Female-To-Male or Male-To-Female, much less common now than trans man & trans woman (particularly due to prevalence of non-binary trans)
- Genderqueer: People with a non-binary gender identity usually identify under this label to some extent.
- Intersex: People who have a physically non-binary sex. Kinda like trans in some way, with a whole bunch of unique challenges.
- LGBTQQIA: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Asexual.
- Trans Man and Trans Woman: Men & women who formerly were identified by a different gender at birth to their actual gender identity.
I really just did this part to remind people of cat lumps. Cat lumps are out there.
I would quite like to talk about an issue but I don't think I know much about gender identity, and I'm not sure how to post without getting my head bitten off. How do I avoid that?
OK, there's no hard and fast way to achieve this, but here are some things that may be helpful to keep in mind.
- Try not to define other people with what you say. This includes trying to theorise things like `trans women do this' or `so trans men are really blah'. Everyone is different.
- Feel free to Google your question (if any) first. I know, PA forums people are pretty cool and you'd rather ask e-buddies, but if you can find your answer in the first ten Google results, you can be reasonably sure people in this thread have heard your question a lot. If you can't, its probably a good one.
- Don't `deadname' people who are going through, or have completed, gender transition. Its rude and triggering, its just...don't do it, OK?
- Avoid asking about people's `bits'. You know, hoo-has, or the meat and two veg. Its really not your business.
- Take the answer in before arguing against it. Sometimes this gender identity stuff has a slow burn and it takes skull sweat & time for enlightenment to occur.
Didn't the last trans thread get really awkward? I remember it feeling kind of awkward near the end there (or earlier even).
Yes, it did get kind of awkward, and we heard from a whole bunch of people who felt uncomfortable posting in the thread. That is really...not good.
I'm really hoping that this time around the people who spoke up in the last trans thread feel welcome to contribute and not be turned off by perceived groupthink. Sadly even (other) trans people get things wrong sometimes, and being excluded suuuucks
So just to put it out there: IF YOU ARE POSTING IN THIS THREAD, PLEASE PUT IN THE CONSCIOUS EFFORT TO BE ACCEPTING OF OTHERS PEOPLE'S EXPERIENCES.
And as always, the Report button is there for people who are not happy with what is going on - calling in a moderator isn't `dobbing', its good sense when things seem wrong.
Links!
The last Trans thread
The current LGBT thread
If you'd like me to add some good stuff to the OP, flick me a PM and I shall do so! Ta!
So, this is my first thread starty thing on Penny Arcade...test me out, whacha got?
What is a trans?
Oh. Oh...cool. Umm....maybe start here? - http://transwhat.org/confused/
The intended theme of this thread is pretty much anything to do with gender identity and how people deal with it.
Who is this thread for?
Well, its in the Singularity Engine, so anyone really BUT:
- The people this thread is intended for is anyone who has a gender or does not!
- But also this thread is hopefully a safe space for people dealing with gender identity issues slightly more than those who are cis binary and not questioning.
So yeah, anybody, but DBAD. We just call it Trans thread because its quick shorthand.
I'm seeing a lot of terms that I have no idea what they are. Help!
- Agender: People who have little or no gender identity; not identifying as male or female to any significant extent.
- AFAB & AMAB: Means `Assigned Female At Birth' and `Assigned Male At Birth'.
- Cat lumps: boobs.
- Deadname: Referring to a person who is going through, or has completed gender transition by the name associated with a false gender. Sort of extends to using the wrong pronouns.
- FTM & MTF: stands for Female-To-Male or Male-To-Female, much less common now than trans man & trans woman (particularly due to prevalence of non-binary trans)
- Genderqueer: People with a non-binary gender identity usually identify under this label to some extent.
- Intersex: People who have a physically non-binary sex. Kinda like trans in some way, with a whole bunch of unique challenges.
- LGBTQQIA: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Asexual.
- Trans Man and Trans Woman: Men & women who formerly were identified by a different gender at birth to their actual gender identity.
I really just did this part to remind people of cat lumps. Cat lumps are out there.
I would quite like to talk about an issue but I don't think I know much about gender identity, and I'm not sure how to post without getting my head bitten off. How do I avoid that?
OK, there's no hard and fast way to achieve this, but here are some things that may be helpful to keep in mind.
- Try not to define other people with what you say. This includes trying to theorise things like `trans women do this' or `so trans men are really blah'. Everyone is different.
- Feel free to Google your question (if any) first. I know, PA forums people are pretty cool and you'd rather ask e-buddies, but if you can find your answer in the first ten Google results, you can be reasonably sure people in this thread have heard your question a lot. If you can't, its probably a good one.
- Don't `deadname' people who are going through, or have completed, gender transition. Its rude and triggering, its just...don't do it, OK?
- Avoid asking about people's `bits'. You know, hoo-has, or the meat and two veg. Its really not your business.
- Take the answer in before arguing against it. Sometimes this gender identity stuff has a slow burn and it takes skull sweat & time for enlightenment to occur.
Didn't the last trans thread get really awkward? I remember it feeling kind of awkward near the end there (or earlier even).
Yes, it did get kind of awkward, and we heard from a whole bunch of people who felt uncomfortable posting in the thread. That is really...not good.
I'm really hoping that this time around the people who spoke up in the last trans thread feel welcome to contribute and not be turned off by perceived groupthink. Sadly even (other) trans people get things wrong sometimes, and being excluded suuuucks
So just to put it out there: IF YOU ARE POSTING IN THIS THREAD, PLEASE PUT IN THE CONSCIOUS EFFORT TO BE ACCEPTING OF OTHERS PEOPLE'S EXPERIENCES.
And as always, the Report button is there for people who are not happy with what is going on - calling in a moderator isn't `dobbing', its good sense when things seem wrong.
Links!
The last Trans thread
The current LGBT thread
If you'd like me to add some good stuff to the OP, flick me a PM and I shall do so! Ta!